Gratitude · Happy Mind

Starry moments: day 19

Today’s moments that made me smile:

Waking up in the arms of the guy I love, that feeling of belonging, and of not having to go to work! Bliss.

An invite for another crafty wedding afternoon. I love doing crafty bits, but never quite find the time. This way I know I will make the time, get a great girly catchup, and make pretty things, perfect! The whole thing also makes me feel a part of the family, which can be a tricky one with step families. Anyone else have a step family?

Spotting a line of seagulls, one on each post by the river. It would have made a brilliant photo if we hadn’t been in the car. It really tickled me.

Cuddling the two FLUFFIEST cats on the planet, a friend’s two ragamuffins. I could have happily buried my face in all the fur, I had to drag myself away… (If you’ve seen the little girl in Despicable Me when she shouts “fluffy!”, that’s me).

Last but not least, seeing my old house in the city before Adrian and I moved in together, in the country. I miss the convenience of the location, but I didn’t feel sad. That house belongs to another era, it was a great house with happy memories, but now it needs to look after its new inhabitants. (To put this in context, I moved into that house when my ex finished with me after 12 years, my first house all on my own, so leaving it was hard, but the future has been so much better).

This will be my last daily “starry moment” post because I can’t keep up! But (and a huge thank for all your support and suggestions), I’m now going to do a weekly update, which will hopefully free up my time for all the other posts I want to write...

Gratitude · Happy Mind

Starry moments: day 18

Some bullet points today, a great day means less time to blog (I’m stll trying to get that balance between finding time to blog about life and actually living life!)

  • A great Pilates class, and chatted to two lovely women before and after class. Shame my class is at a different time next week, but it still felt great to make even this temporary connection.
  • A soak in a hot deep bath, my body had earnt it! It still feels good to be making this start at looking after body as well as mind.
  • The feel of cold fresh air on my face at the bus stop. And the driver who drove past me earlier in the week let me have a free ride today, it felt right somehow, like we’d silently made up.
  • An afternoon making tissue paper pom poms with my step family. Some great girly time, and crafting! Can’t wait to do it again soon.

  • It really feels like I’m getting my life back, or perhaps it’s a new and improved version. I also think my thoughts are healthier – I know there will be down days, and that this is normal. A down day doesn’t make me a failure, or mean I’m back where I started. Most likely it means I need to stop for a bit and be kind to myself.

(These starry moments posts feel very self indulgent, my way of recording and focussing on the good stuff, but I worry that for those who don’t know me, perhaps they’re a bit tedious? The problem is that after blogging my starry moments each day, I don’t get much time to write anything else!)

Gratitude · Happy Mind

Starry moments: day 17

Today was a HUGE starry moment in my relatively small world.

For most of you, the next bit will probably sound odd, as in, what’s the big deal? But for anyone with social anxiety – get this – I went for drinks and food with people I don’t usually socialise with, in a pub I’d never been too. I’m so chuffed with myself.

This weekend I’m going to write how I did it, as a reminder to me and hopefully some help to others.

Gratitude · Happy Mind

Starry moments: day 16

In no particular order:

A fox scurrying through a hedge

An invite to a house party

A blog award

Appreciating my glasses, because without them I mistook this jumper for my cat:

The moon (one day past a full moon, but a clearer sky tonight, even if my phone doesn’t do it justice, pop out and have a look):

A bottle of snowball waiting on my desk because I said I’d never tried one!wpid-IMAG1917_1_1.jpg

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Sunshine on a cloudy day

I feel slightly embarrassed, but too chuffed and grateful not to mention it, I have another blog award!


Thank you to the wonderful Kate aka Kate the lost wanderer, who I met through Zero to hero (I can hear my Dad saying “whom, not who”, but grammar evolves, right?).

So, I’m afraid I’m going to bore / perplex you all with 10 random facts about me:

  1. I love cats, I have two, but I am also ridiculously allergic to them. The doctor’s helpful suggestion was a carrier bag, some stones and a river, I kid you not. I think he was more of a dog lover. In a way it is just as well I’m allergic or I would have hundreds of cats.
  2. I hate flying – it’s not that I think its dangerous, it’s just” that I don’t like not being able to get off at any point. However, I can appreciate that this is an important rule…
  3. I love reading, but can’t stop mid chapter. Is this familiar to anyone?
  4. I hate queue jumpers, don’t get me started. Manners cost nothing.
  5. I love people with flaws, I find them much more interesting than “perfect”people, and I can relate to them so much better!
  6. I hate spiders, all those legs and unpredictability.
  7. I love lists, lists of lists, colour coded lists….
  8. I hate frogs – again, all that unpredictability due to their ability to move REALLy quickly in any given direction
  9. I love marzipan, or anything almond related (including almonds)
  10. I hate being too hot or too cold, but unfortunately I have about a 5 degree window of comfort.
  11. (I have to finish on a positive!) I love you guys!

Now for the nominations. I’m going to pick just one blogger, and that is  Wonderland Lashes for her Stay Positive Project – pop over and have a look!

Gratitude · Happy Mind

Starry moments: days 14 and 15

Yesterday was one of those days when I had to have a little word with myself. I’ve noticed that sometimes I get so caught up with blogging about life that I find it hard to stop and actually live life, let alone mindfully! Mr Silver Linings and I went to his brother’s for the evening and had some wonderful family time, just kicking back and enjoying the company. We had also promised ourselves an early night after a few too many late nights, but I hadn’t updated my blog – what to do? So, perfectionism was put aside, life came before blog. Despite my promise to blog a starry moment each day, it seemed daft to miss out on the starry moment of an early night. Does anyone else struggle to put their blog down?

Source: John Lewis
Source: John Lewis

Anyways, starry moments. Yesterday:

I had some lovely banter with a student who had changed his name, and it reminded me of how much I love these random little interactions, life would be so much less without them.

I realised that I always take the same route to the bus stop, but a shortcut meant I could cut through Waterstones and have a quick look at the mindfulness books. (It seems I dreamt up Mindfulness for cyclists, strange but true). I wonder how many moments we miss by taking the same route every day, by being on autopilot?

And of course, an inbox full of blog awards, banter with family and an early night. Bliss.


Being able to help a new blogger, both with his blog and with the suggestion of a trip to the beach to help lift the spirits (he is an amazing guy and I hope to introduce you to him when the time is right)

Being described as awesome, on 3 completely separate occasions by 3 completely different people. Awesome is SUCH an amazing word, it just makes me feel, well, AWESOME! It is never a word I would have used to describe myself, but wow, thank you.

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Another Liebster award!!! I did start to wonder if Liebster awards were part of the Zero to Hero WordPress challenge! To say I was chuffed to get this would be a HUGE understatement. Thank you, thank you, thank you to Kathy, I am sending you a big squeezy over excited hug!


There are rules associated with the Liebster award:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and link to their blog.

2. You must answer the 10 questions given to you by the nominee before you.  (That list is below the nominations.)

3. You must nominate 10 of your favorite blogs with fewer than 200 followers and notify them of their nomination.

4. You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

Here are Kathy’s ten questions:

When did you start your blog?

I started it in September 2013, so it is a semi new blog, but with a few posts under my belt. I don’t want to look back at the first posts or I’ll end up re-writing everything!

2. What made you do the Zero to Hero challenge?

I started it for purely technical reasons – I wanted to make sure I hadn’t missed anything in the process of setting up my blog. I had gone with the trial and error approach (and lots of time over on the support pages), but always had a nagging feeling that there was so much more I could do. However, it has been an added bonus to meet other new bloggers in the same boat!

3. Do you have any pets?

Yes, two Devon Rex cats, the monkeys of the cat world…

4. What is your favorite hobby?

I would honestly have to say it is blogging, whether reading or writing.

5. What do you do most of the day?

I work in a library. I look after various online bits and pieces, and help students with their queries. I love it. However, if I could blog for a living I would be pleased as punch – but then wouldn’t we all?

6. Do you believe in magic?

I believe that Dynamo is magic, or an alien, or a time traveller.

7. If you could have another life, what would you be?

I have always wanted to be a domestic cat.

8. Why?

I just want to curl up all day and be cuddled! And (on a slightly deeper note), have you ever noticed how mindful cats are? They live in the moment, their wants and needs are simple, and if these are met, they’re content. Big purrs all round!

9. How big is your immediate family?

Me, my Mum and my Dad. I live with my boyfriend, who I also consider to be my immediate family.

10. What do you like about writing?

This is going to sound strange. I never thought of blogging as writing when I set out, I started so I could record and share what I’m up, but it turns out I love writing! I know my grammar is terrible and I’m prone to typos, but I really enjoy it. I love the thought process and the act of getting those thoughts out of my head and into some sort of logical (and hopefully inspirational) order. I love how this helps my brain make sense of things. Most of all I love connecting with people.


I have to admit I am struggling with nominations as I am still discovering people, so please see my last post for nominees….