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Act yourself confident aka a week in the life of Amy Pond

How many times have I looked at people and wished I could be that confident? And it isn’t just the confidence, it’s everything that comes with it, mainly, the opportunities. Whenever I see an opportunity, I automatically run through all the things that could go wrong before it even becomes a possibility. By the time the opportunity may eventually arise, I’m long gone.

But here’s the thing. Apparently you can act yourself confident, i.e. the more confident you act (however tiny you feel inside), the more confident you become.

So this week’s challenge is to act confident. I am going to imagine myself into the shoes of my confident alter ego, Amy Pond (Dr Who’s former assistant), and for one week I’m going to act as Amy Pond would act.

Source: BBC
Source: BBC

Here’s how to fake it ‘til you make it:

  • Walk tall, shoulders down, arms uncrossed
  • Smile, lots
  • Say yes to great stuff
  • Say no to not so great stuff
  • Go wherever the action is (this may or may not include time travel)

 Move over Miss Silver Linings, say hi to Amy Pond!

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The power of a password

How many times a day do you type a password? Each time you log onto your laptop or work PC, to look at your emails, to update your blog…

According to The Telegraph (2013), the most common passwords are:

  1. Password
  2. Paswword1
  3. 123456
  4. Qwerty
  5. Pet name
  6. Place of birth
  7. Iloveyou
  8. Monkey
  9. Name of a loved one
  10. Yourfirstname1

Imagine if every time you typed your password, you were reinforcing positive thinking? It needs to be a word that is important to you, that you want to see more of in your life.

  • Mindful
  • Positive
  • Awesome
  • Brave
  • SilverLinings

Do you think you might try this? What would you choose? (Perhaps given an example, it’s best not to share your actual password!)

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Becoming my own best friend

Each week I am going to concentrate on one aspect of self-improvement as I explore different ways of becoming the happiest Amy I can be.

This week I will be working on becoming my own best friend. I strive to be a good friend to others, but I’m quite possibly my own worst enemy. Ok, I am my own worst enemy. But from now on, every time I catch myself having a little dig, I’m going to stop and think what I would say to a friend was in the same situation.

Qualities of my own best friend:

  • Listen without judging
  • Speak kindly
  • Be supportive
  • Be encouraging
  • Be gentle
  • Be present, through thick and thin
  • Stay positive, look for the silver linings at all times!

Are you your own best friend? Do you have any tips for me this week?

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Doubly happy!

I’ve been bursting to tell you that a few days ago the utterly brilliant janeybgood from cupidorcats nominated Silver Linings for TWO blog awards. No, you’re not seeing double, there really are TWO!!



Please please please go to the cupidorcats blog. You know that moment when you find someone else with the same slightly quirky sense of humour? That’s what happened with this blog – the name alone says it all! I am in blog love.

Anyway, time for me to try and stop gushing…

The awards came with a set of instructions:
1. Thank the blogger who nominated you.
2. List 7 facts about yourself.
3. Nominate other deserving bloggers.
4. Display the award logo on your blog.

7 facts about Miss Silver Linings

1. I can’t cook. Can’t cook, won’t cook. I hate cooking – all that effort for a few moments reward. Luckily Mr Silver Linings LOVES cooking, and is very good at it. Thank you Mr Silver Linings x

2. I LOVE Marmite, but only on white toast. Mr Silver Linings HATES Marmite. (Which camp are you in?)

3. When I get hungry, I get really hungry. And moody. It is now referred to in our house (and most frequently when we’re out and about) as a “level 2”. Level 2 means I need to eat food as soon as humanly possible or I’m going to have a temper tantrum. Not sure I should have admitted that…

4. As it seems that I have food on the brain, I’ll carry on with the theme. I can’t remember the last time I had a MacDonald’s. Mr Silver Linings is completely against eating meat that hasn’t been ethically reared. In our house we only eat “happy” meat, meat where the animals have been bred and reared outside. I can’t resist teasing Mr SLP that surely we should eat the sad meat to put them out of their misery. (Please, no angry comments, it’s a joke, probably not a very good one).

5. I am a fussy eater, but getting better. As a child I went through a phase of only eating cold sausages and Marmite sandwiches (not at the same time). I still love cold sausages more than is probably natural.

6. I love food, I’m permanently hungry, but I get really anxious about eating around a table with people. I think this is because when I’m anxious I feel sick, and it is extremely difficult to tuck into a plate of food when you feel sick. But I am getting better.

7. My ideal night is me, Mr SLP, my cats, the sofa, a tub of ice cream and two spoons. That is how I roll.

Now to make my nominations:







Last but definitely not least!


There are so many more that I want to include, but I’m going to choose 7, all chosen for their insight on this funny old life of ours. Please pop over to their blogs and indulge yourself in some very good reads!

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Positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are quiet reminders that you tell yourself throughout the day, often in order to conquer the whisperings of your inner demon, e.g. the anxiety monster.

My positive affirmation is “I am good enough”.


These words help stop me beating myself up for not being …. enough. Insert pretty much any positive word in the gap, and I have probably thought it of myself. I know we get told to strive to be the best we can be, but for me, this puts too much pressure on myself. I am happy with good enough.

Do you have a positive affirmation? Does it work?